In the use of mobile phones, children and parents seem to always stand in opposite positions. Mobile phones permeate all aspects of children's lives and meet many of their psychological needs. As they get older, they also need more autonomy and do not like to be nagged. Parents will worry about their children because of the use of mobile phones, affecting social and learning, or even addicted to it, affecting physical and mental health, want to help children manage mobile phones but at a loss. "Mobile phone tug of war" cycle, how to break the game?

In this parents' class, we will share a warm "mobile phone use contract" for you, introducing how to communicate with children about rational use of mobile phones, establishing a united front of mobile phone management, helping children improve self-control, and helping you solve long-standing problems.

Key word: self-control

Problem Description: Teacher, my children like to play mobile phones, a play every day to play for several hours, only on the third grade myopia on 300 degrees, play simply ignore my any advice.

A: Mobile phones and online games are becoming a source of tragedy for teenagers, and many parents are confused about it. If you are addicted to mobile phones or online games for a long time, it will not only affect their studies, but also seriously harm their physical and mental health, and eventually lead to poor self-regulation and executive ability of children. Children who love to play with mobile phones are actually hungry for their parents' love and attention. Give them more company, this is the key to cure their Internet addiction.

In fact, the way you speak the truth at this time, the child must not listen to it, many times the child is likely to play mobile phone is the lack of parental companionship, he can find friends and the fun of life in the mobile phone, so this time parents need to give the child full love, respect and freedom, but also need to set clear boundaries for the child, if found that the child has a trend of addiction to mobile phones, Parents should make a reasonable mobile phone use rules for their children and enforce them firmly.

Of course, at the same time requiring children, our parents should also be a good example, do not play mobile phones without important things, although it is difficult, but for the sake of children we must overcome this difficulty, by example, after all, if we can't do it as parents, how can we expect children to do it? Every child has the psychology of imitation, if the parents do well enough, the child will gradually develop good habits, a good habit for the child, benefit for life.

For mobile phones and online games, we can not regard it as a monster flood, nor can we blindly force control, so doing will backfire and cause children's strong resistance.

Only by mastering scientific methods and correctly and reasonably guiding parents can children consciously reduce the time they spend playing games.

Let's see what the "Mobile Phone Usage Contract" says.

1. We do several things more interesting than mobile phones every day, discover them together, and set the rules of the game together; 2. You will use your phone for a specified time. One hour a day Monday through Friday, including the time I call or text a friend. Two hours a day on Saturday and Sunday; 3. Parents should be a good example and do not play with mobile phones when accompanying children;

4. Cultivate children's other interests and hobbies, increase interest learning time, and explore interesting alternative activities;

5. Establish family sharing time: such as doing housework together, outdoor activities, reading together, etc., so that children can experience the happiness of real life and enhance their cognition and dependence on family affection;

6. Set up a reward mechanism: when children use mobile phones reasonably according to regulations, finish school or participate in other beneficial activities, give appropriate rewards;

7. Stay away from bad content and share your browsing/social history with mom and dad.

Parents can not be high and control their children at will, self-control is slowly cultivated, to be in an equal position with children, respect children, let children feel the sense of control, let children feel the respect from parents.

If in life, the child's various psychological needs can be met, he is likely to be addicted to mobile phones and games will be greatly reduced.