Chinese Classics.part 01/ Story content

[Materials] "Zhi Tongjian" Wei Dynasty Emperor Wen Emperor Huang Chu seventh year 226 AD

Summer, May, Emperor disease Du, is Rui for the crown prince. He summoned General Cao Zhen of the Central Army, General Chen Qun of the Town Army, and General Sima Yi of the Fujun Army, and was instructed to assist him. Ding Mi, Di Die. Chen Shou commented: Emperor Wen is gifted with literary algae, writing well, knowledgeable and talented. If coupled with the degree of kuang, to the honesty of fairness, Mai Chi to save the way, the heart of the Guangde, then the ancient sage Lord, there is no far!

In May, Cao PI became seriously ill and made Cao Rui crown prince. On the 16th, Cao Zhen, Chen Qun, and Sima Yi, General of the Town Army, were summoned to issue their bequests, ordering them to assist the government. On the 17th, Cao PI died.

Chen Shou commented that Emperor Wen had a talent for literature, writing well, writing well, and possessing both talents and skills. If coupled with a broad and generous bearing and a fair sincere heart, encourage themselves to maintain moral aspirations, dedicated to the spread of virtuous grace, than the ancient sage king, will not be too far away.

Chinese Classics.part 02/ Story inspiration

Why do you say that Chen Shou is hukua and bragging? What are the taboos:

① miss the point of the hookua

Emperor Wen is a gifted man who writes with great knowledge and talent.

Chen Shou opened his mouth to Kua Wei Wen Emperor Cao PI outstanding literary talent, writing a chapter, a lot of knowledge, but also quite artistic cells.

This must be a good word, such praise Cao PI is no problem. But that alone is not enough. The emperor's main business is to govern the country, to govern the country, to fight against foreign countries and to secure the interior. If Chen Shou first said that Emperor Wen bowed to the material of Shenwu, the thickness of benevolence, the overall hero, the solution to the people in the hanging; Then the emperor's talents and algae, write a chapter, knowledgeable, talented and should be. This is no problem, more in place. But Chen Shou put aside the duties of the emperor and praised Cao Piwen only, which was very one-sided and completely missed the point.

② Avoid praise of character

Another is that, as the saying goes, it starts with the appearance level, trapped in talent, and finally the character, we really praise a person, we must start from the character. Chen Shou is good, he did not even mention the character of Wei Wen, so to give people

The sense is very bad, is Cao PI bad character? If not, then why don't you start from your character? What are you avoiding? What is there to avoid? High and low also have to add a sentence, Emperor wide hong do, out of respect and frugality, the command is gentle, there is ancient wind fierce ah.

Chinese Classics.part 03/ Story extension

So, what does it take to appreciate someone?

Argumentative intelligence empathy

All three are indispensable, and when teaching children to praise others, it is a process of guiding children's self-reflection, and it is also a process of cultivating children's ability to enhance empathy. Emotional intelligence is not a day, nor no time no occasion, which need to be developed from a young age.

It is not difficult to praise people, it is rare to praise people well. The real will praise people, not to please and please, but to give each other upward strength with love and wisdom.

Otherwise, people will not think you are praising him, but will think you are scolding him. This is not a good way for us to live in harmony with the society. Chen Shou is a lesson from the past, he praised others so, the result of a lifetime did not mix well, and Wei Jin a gang of big misfits, the result not only did not mix well, a talent is useless, we take as a lesson. Truly advanced praise, not only need sincerity, but also need a wisdom. This wisdom lies in the observation of things and the understanding of people, not only to distinguish the occasion of speaking, but also to speak to the people's difficulties. Imagine how happy and grateful a person must be to know that someone has said something nice about him behind his back.